1.      Can disabled persons have sex?

a)      What does it mean to be disabled?

b)      What does it mean to have sex?

– What conditions must be met so that a couple can have sex (??*censored*?? and lovemaking)?

– Is it necessary for one's body to be uninjured in order to feel comfort while having sex?

– Is enjoying having sex defined only by satisfying one's sexual desire, or should one satisfy his or her partner as well?

– In what ways can I take part in someone else's pleasure if I) I do not have one of my legs or arms; II I cannot turn around when I am in bed; III) I have cramps or am stiff or I am shaking IV) I have epileptic seizure during the intercourse etc.?

–        Which of the body parts can be missing in order to still be able to have sex?

– Is the body missing some of its features necessarily ugly?

–        Is a scarred body ugly?

– Do I need to hide my scars while having sex?

– Is there something wrong if I kiss the scar, touch it and enjoy doing so (can the scars be considered erotic, attractive, and sexy)? Is there something wrong if my partner does not allow me to do that?

– Is there something if my partner is (at first) bothered by my scars? Do I need to be offended?

– Is there something if my partner feels that, during the intercourse, he can no longer perform (his erection is gone and his genitalia is painful to touch). Should I be hurt, concerned, and angry?

– Is there something wrong if my partner does not want to have sex, but only wants to masturbate?

– Is there something wrong if I do not achieve orgasm, but feel delight in being touched, kissed or if I feel comfort in tenderness. And what if only my partner achieves orgasm?

– Is there something wrong if I fantasize about someone while having sex? Do I need to feel guilty? Should I be angry if my partner admits that he/she fantasizes about somebody who is not disabled?

– Should I leave my partner rather than admit that my sexual prowess is limited and that I cannot do everything he/she might be expecting from me?

–Am I able to feel comfort without forcing my partner into things she finds repulsive? Am I satisfied only if I have things my way?

– Is sex really like pizza, which is pretty good even if it is bad?

– Is sex really like brushing your teeth, a routine, recurring task, we need to put up with, because we feel that it is better to do it than not doing it?

- Can we get bored with having sex with the same person all the time?

-  Can we have sex with more than one partner at the same time?

– Is a steady partner really necessary for good sex?

– Is sex really something beast-like based on instinct, which just sort of takes place, without our needing to conscientiously think about it?

– Does one need to be inventive, playful, relaxed, inovative in order to permanently enjoy in having sex? Does one always need to surprise his or her partner?

– Does defining the frequency of sexual intercourses and to push oneself into having sex just so we would not feel different from others, really make sense?

– Is a personal assistant really an insuperable obstacle when two disabled persons are trying to have sex?

– Can a disabled person, who is unable to masturbate, expect some sort help from other people (friends), without being labelled as a sexual maniac?

– Should a non-disabled person offer help to a disabled person if he/she now that he/she is not able to masturbate?

- What does "being able to have sex" mean? Are they allowed to have sex? Are they able to? Do they mean they have sex with a great ease?

 2. Do the disabled want to have sex?

a) Are there any reasons why the disabled should not be allowed to have sex? Are they plausible?

b) Are there any reasons why the disabled should not wish to have sex? Are they plausible?

c) Are there any reasons why the non-disabled should not want to have sex with the disabled? Are they plausible?

d) What kind of people do the disabled want to have sex with?

3. Do the disabled want to discuss sex?

a) Do they read some good books on the subject before discussion?

b) Are they only repeating the already known stereotypes and talk in a vulgar way?

 c) Why does it make sense to talk about sex?

– Is it possible that, through talking about sex, we are going to try to define, plan, anticipate and finally saturate our relationship? Isn't such discussion useless?

– Does that mean that we need to learn how to communicate without pushing other people away from us, without underestimating, overestimating our partner or without making him/her frustrated

– Can we have good sex if partners talk about the act in detail beforehand?

– Is it OK if a disabled tells his/her partner what he/she can or cannot do? Can this affect the partner in a positive way?

4. What is love?

5. Do the disabled have (enough of) sex?

 6. What about mentally disabled persons?

 7. Is disability contagious?

8. Can a disabled man have an erection and why would anyone think otherwise?

9. Is a severely immobile woman able to have children?

10. Is it true that a healthy/non-disabled person is more capable of pleasuring because of his physical capabilities, whereas a disabled has no chance of doing that?

11. Is a disabled man really unable to make a woman feel secure?

The questions were posed to you by Andrej Jug.