Every word on this topic distresses them, especially when I tell them that there is not a single woman in Slovenia, especially a young one, who would be able to perceive a disabled man as an erotic and sexual being. Their distress may be interpreted as a feeling of guilt, which should tell us that I am on the right track. Why should somebody for finding certain people unattractive? I guess we all agree that one finds some people attractive, and other people less so or even unattractive. A woman will probably find some men more attractive than others. Why is it then that women feel uncomfortable when I tell them that as a disabled person I am obviously not perceived as a sexual human being, who wishes to experience physical love and that I also masturbate. Most of women see me as someone they can talk to, who needs to be pitied cared for, constantly asked if he needs anything and whether I am comfortable with this or that.

I would like to make something clear, right here and now: NO, I AM NOT COMFORTABLE, I NEED LOVE, PHYSICAL LOVE AS WELL. YOU CAN BEST HELP ME IF YOU START TREATING ME AS A SEXUAL BEING RATHER THAN A DISABLED MAN AND IF YOU SPREAD THE WORD THAT I AM A MAN WHO EATS, DRINKS, LAUGHS (OR NOT), WHO HAS AMBITIONS – IN SHORT THAT I AM NOT THAT SPECIAL.       

Andrej J. Jug