1. Can disabled persons
a) What does it mean to be
b) What does it mean to
must be met so that a couple can have sex (??*censored*?? and
Is it necessary
for one's body to be uninjured in order to feel comfort while having
having sex defined only by satisfying one's sexual desire, or should one satisfy
his or her partner as well?
In what ways
can I take part in someone else's pleasure if I) I do not have one of my legs or
arms; II I cannot turn around when I am in bed; III) I have cramps or am stiff
or I am shaking IV) I have epileptic seizure during the intercourse
Which of the body parts
can be missing in order to still be able to have
Is the body
missing some of its features necessarily
Is a scarred body
Do I need to
hide my scars while having sex?
something wrong if I kiss the scar, touch it and enjoy doing so (can the scars
be considered erotic, attractive, and sexy)? Is there something wrong if my
partner does not allow me to do that?
something if my partner is (at first) bothered by my scars? Do I need to be
something if my partner feels that, during the intercourse, he can no longer
perform (his erection is gone and his genitalia is painful to touch). Should I
be hurt, concerned, and angry?
something wrong if my partner does not want to have sex, but only wants to
something wrong if I do not achieve orgasm, but feel delight in being touched,
kissed or if I feel comfort in tenderness. And what if only my partner achieves
something wrong if I fantasize about someone while having sex? Do I need to feel
guilty? Should I be angry if my partner admits that he/she fantasizes about
somebody who is not disabled?
Should I leave
my partner rather than admit that my sexual prowess is limited and that I cannot
do everything he/she might be expecting from
Am I able to
feel comfort without forcing my partner into things she finds repulsive? Am I
satisfied only if I have things my way?
Is sex really
like pizza, which is pretty good even if it is
Is sex really
like brushing your teeth, a routine, recurring task, we need to put up with,
because we feel that it is better to do it than not doing
- Can we get
bored with having sex with the same person all the
- Can we have sex with more than one
partner at the same time?
Is a steady
partner really necessary for good sex?
Is sex really
something beast-like based on instinct, which just sort of takes place, without
our needing to conscientiously think about
Does one need
to be inventive, playful, relaxed, inovative in order to permanently enjoy in
having sex? Does one always need to surprise his or her
the frequency of sexual intercourses and to push oneself into having sex just so
we would not feel different from others, really make
Is a personal
assistant really an insuperable obstacle when two disabled persons are trying to
Can a disabled
person, who is unable to masturbate, expect some sort help from other people
(friends), without being labelled as a sexual
non-disabled person offer help to a disabled person if he/she now that he/she is
not able to masturbate?
- What does
"being able to have sex" mean? Are they allowed to have sex? Are they able to?
Do they mean they have sex with a great
2. Do the disabled want to have
a) Are there any
reasons why the disabled should not be allowed to have sex? Are they
b) Are there any
reasons why the disabled should not wish to have sex? Are they
c) Are there any
reasons why the non-disabled should not want to have sex with the disabled? Are
d) What kind of
people do the disabled want to have sex
3. Do the
disabled want to discuss sex?
a) Do they read
some good books on the subject before discussion?
b) Are they only
repeating the already known stereotypes and talk in a vulgar
c) Why does it make sense to talk about
Is it possible
that, through talking about sex, we are going to try to define, plan, anticipate
and finally saturate our relationship? Isn't such discussion
Does that mean
that we need to learn how to communicate without pushing other people away from
us, without underestimating, overestimating our partner or without making
Can we have
good sex if partners talk about the act in detail
Is it OK if a
disabled tells his/her partner what he/she can or cannot do? Can this affect the
partner in a positive way?
4. What is
5. Do the
disabled have (enough of) sex?
6. What about mentally disabled
7. Is disability
8. Can a disabled
man have an erection and why would anyone think
9. Is a severely
immobile woman able to have children?
10. Is it true
that a healthy/non-disabled person is more capable of pleasuring because of his
physical capabilities, whereas a disabled has no chance of doing
11. Is a disabled
man really unable to make a woman feel
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